Power of checking up

Power of checking up

Let’s think back a little to when you had your lowest moments. Do you remember who was there for you? Who listened to you and made you feel better? Who showed up for you and made efforts to make sure you were okay?

I have had to admit that I’m not the best when it comes to checking up on friends that are not in my city or live out of the country. I would constantly blame busy schedules and life’s happenings but recently, with the current social distancing laws, I’ve found more time to do so.
I checked up on one of my friends who had been there for me when I went through a difficult time and discovered that she had been dealing with so much in her own life and had wished I had said a simple “hi’ and reached out to hold her hand earlier.

We spoke for a long while and after bringing her up to speed on all that had been going on, I realized how powerful checking up on others can be. We might not have the time to do it as often as we like but I feel like during this period, we have a chance to work at it and be better.

If you are confused on who to check up on, think about
• Who has always been there for you in your lowest.
• Anyone you feel has been unusually distant.
• Family. Send a text to your parents or loved ones
• And anyone you miss and geniuley care about.

These little conversation could end up making your day and theirs and definitely help our general mental health and wellbeing.

Always remember to save emotional real-estate for the ones that would stay, be soft and be a safe place for the ones you love.

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Who Makes Your Decisions ?!

Who Makes Your Decisions ?!

Do you ever wish someone else, just anybody could take the pressure and make the hard decisions on your behalf? Then they’d also face the consequences, while you sit back, kick your feet up and eat popcorn? Well, I do. I am probably one of the most indecisive persons you could ever meet and this is mainly because I’m afraid of the outcomes of my decisions.

I have always been afraid to make decisions about school, relationships and even simple things like clothes. I spend so much time deliberating on a decision because I’m afraid of what people will say, how the situation looks, if its acceptable. This behavior of mine has really hindered me from doing so many things. I’m always trying to people please when I should really be pleasing myself and thinking of what pleases Jesus.

It took me time but I realized that we are allowed to make the wrong decisions, say the wrong things. We are not built to be prefect all the time. Even in the context of my faith. I’m allowed to slip up. I’m slowly learning to be comfortable with doing what I think is right, before I consider anyone else. Its important that your decisions always favor you.

Just quickly think of decisions you have made that are more people pleasing than you pleasing. And set your priority to be on you. This is your life and your story. Remember, as the main character of your life’s story, you need to build your story first before allowing others to add to the details.