“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.” – Steve Maraboli
Think back to your last argument, or the last slight disagreement you had. How did you feel after? I always feel confused, unsure if I said the right things, wishing I could have said less and said more.
I recently I had planned out a whole conversation, written out everything I was going to say, so that it doesn’t come out offensive. However, the person took it the wrong way and I found myself arguing over something that wasn’t even the main topic. No one plans to argue, we usually want to express how we feel and we are met with a negative reaction.
I got so frustrated that I just called my elder brother, and started venting off my anger. And he said “Fountain, it’s in the past there is nothing you can do but let go and move on”. I honestly didn’t want to listen, but after a while I accepted the truth. The two things I learnt were:
1)Forgive yourself: Accept that you can’t take back the words that you said, understand that neither can they. Always remember sorry is better said through actions, so next time you see them say hi or go grab a coffee together.
2)Let go of the situation: understand that the situation is over and let go, don’t keep talking about it, it helps you accept that it’s in past.
I really hope these tips help you, to start moving in a more positive direction. See you soon
“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.” – Steve Maraboli
