Change Your Surroundings

Change Your Surroundings

In science, we call it energy,
In religion, we call it spirits
In the streets, we call it vibes.

All I’m saying is trust it (@bonkifide on Instagram)

I have never really been the kind of person who takes extra time to notice my surroundings, this is because I am someone who knows how to smile and have fun in any situation. But I have come to realize that if we truly want to achieve our goals and protect our peace, We have to be deliberate.

Only you and I can decide who we want to invest our time with, we can choose to be deliberate with our friendships, we do not have to go with the flow, we can create the waves.

Think about it in the practical aspects of your life. Think upon the type of life you want, the way you want to feel. If its more gym or workout oriented, surround yourself with people who are where you want to be. Even something such as drinking water, start putting a glass next to you before you sleep. There is so much potential in each of us and we have to take time to discover it.

Take time this week to notice how you feel around a group of friends,
how your mood changes when you listen to a certain type of music or a type of movie or series
notice where you feel safe and loved
notice you,
because you are the most valuable thing in your story
and readjust your day to have more of what brings you joy.

Comment or email your experiences and what you notice.
See you soon

Your Last Argument

Your Last Argument

“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.” – Steve Maraboli

Think back to your last argument, or the last slight disagreement you had. How did you feel after? I always feel confused, unsure if I said the right things, wishing I could have said less and said more.

I recently I had planned out a whole conversation, written out everything I was going to say, so that it doesn’t come out offensive. However, the person took it the wrong way and I found myself arguing over something that wasn’t even the main topic. No one plans to argue, we usually want to express how we feel and we are met with a negative reaction.

I got so frustrated that I just called my elder brother, and started venting off my anger. And he said “Fountain, it’s in the past there is nothing you can do but let go and move on”. I honestly didn’t want to listen, but after a while I accepted the truth. The two things I learnt were:

1)Forgive yourself: Accept that you can’t take back the words that you said, understand that neither can they. Always remember sorry is better said through actions, so next time you see them say hi or go grab a coffee together.

2)Let go of the situation: understand that the situation is over and let go, don’t keep talking about it, it helps you accept that it’s in past.

I really hope these tips help you, to start moving in a more positive direction. See you soon

“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.” – Steve Maraboli