Have you ever looked at someone and wished you had a body like theirs just so maybe you could be a model, or wished you had someone else’s talent so you could do something with your life and get the kind of recognition they’re receiving. Well, I have many times and I’m guessing you have too.
I had always compared myself to my Siblings, I felt they all had a hustle, like a rhythm to their lives and knew exactly what they wanted to be with that perfect creative bone in their bodies. It also didn’t help that they were all so beautiful with slim bodies, unlike mine at the time.
So I always felt like the un-useful one or the chubbier one, I had nothing to call my own, I really felt useless when I was around them. It made me very defensive and extremely sad to the point where tears of frustration would come out and they’d be left confused wondering what had gone wrong.
Then came Instagram and all its perfection, I died several deaths before I realised that sitting in that pit of comparison wasn’t going to help me get any more talented, creative or beautiful. It only made me feel terrible and depressed so I decided to take a few steps to become a better person.
These are some the few steps that started me on my self-love journey:
- Write down what you are good at, or interested in, it took me a very long while to write stuff down but sit there and don’t leave till you have something because the truth is, there’s something in every one of us.
- Write down your insecurities. What don’t you like about yourself? Are there steps you can take to actively improve? Or are you just going to have to accept that those flaws are a part of your journey?
You have to come to terms with the things that you can change and can’t change. F or example, I can’t change the fact that my legs are not straight so I went and googled models with bow legs, and told myself that if they lived with it I could too ( I know, I’m extra) but it helps.
- When it came to things I could change, I could change my body, so I started cutting back calories, I could change my lack of creativity, so I took my blog more seriously, and I can change the fact that I had no source of income, so I begged my mum to find me a place where I can learn to make nails and make extra income while in university.
- Start working! Now that you know what you can do start working at it now. Doesn’t matter if you fail, my life has always been trial and error, but I am still here and would probably fail at something before the month is over but I won’t die and neither would you.
I still don’t have everything figured out and I don’t think I ever will but I am learning to enjoy the process. Let go of the things that are not in your power to change and embrace and love what you can. The number of times I compliment my self in the mirror might seem insane to someone else but its where I get my daily dose of self-confidence and it helps.
So hey gorgeous, would you like to share some areas where you constantly find yourself making comparisons with me? And maybe we can work together on finding healthy solutions.
Until next time, Love and kisses, Doctor of Happiness 🙂