Do you have one of those habits that you feel like you have carried throughout your whole life, constantly made excuses for and made no real attempt to acknowledge or even change them? Yeah, me too.
This week was extremely difficult for me because I discovered that I am a very defensive person, ( and no I don’t literally mean a defense fighter ) but I’m the kind that wouldn’t let someone get a full sentence in without having a counter reply for them. Basically, I noticed this behavior a few weeks back my dad and sister were arguing privately, He mentioned my name and without even hearing what he said I interrupted by saying “daddy I am not an example for weakness”
They looked so confused and irritated because I was totally out of the equation in their conversation. However, it made me realize my defensive mechanism. I am always so quick to respond without even properly understanding the situation at hand. And it is mainly because I don’t want to be seen as weak or stupid.
Everyone has the big or little flaws that can cause damage not only to them but to their relationships as well. I am mainly writing about being defensive because it’s a trait almost everyone shows unintentionally. It has been hard trying to listen, understand and not react as though I’m being directly attacked.
In this whole process, I’ve learnt a lot of lessons along the way and these are a few ways that helped me stop reacting so quickly without any validation :
– Not everything or everyone deserves a reaction from you.
– Listen and understand before you respond, because your replies actually are more intelligent when you do so
– No behavior is impossible to change, if you need to stop a bad habit you can always take it one step at a time
– Sometimes there might be a reason why people do what they do if you react too quickly, you might never know why.
– Rapid reactions could cause bigger issues.
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